This article teaches you how to ‘stress-proof’ your day with a range of simple techniques, from ‘centering’ to ‘brain plasticity’ exercises!
1. Getting ready in the morning:
Start your day using mindfulness. Think about your day yesterday… Did you really taste the food you ate? If you spent any time outside, did you look around you and notice how windy it was? Did you really pay attention to those around you and listen to what they were saying?
‘Mindfulness’ means becoming more aware of your thoughts, how you are feeling and what you are doing in the here and now. Spending a few moments each day to be ‘mindful’ will help increase your awareness and feeling of calm and decrease any anxiety or stress that you’re feeling.
Here are some examples of ways in which you can be more mindful as you get ready for your day:
- As you take a shower or a bath, feel the temperature of the water change as it warms up. Feel the sensation of the water on your body and take in the smells of the soap, shampoo etc.
- As you brush your teeth, pay attention to the feeling of the brush on your teeth and the sounds it makes.
- As you eat your breakfast, take time to really taste everything you are putting in your mouth. What temperature is it? What does the texture feel like in your mouth? How does the taste change as you eat it?
Throughout the day, you can also practice being mindful by focusing on the sounds and sights around you. For example, listening to the birds as you take a walk, or noticing the architectural features of the buildings that you pass.
2. During the morning:
Practice this centring technique whilst at your desk, or when taking a break. You can then start to use it when you feel yourself becoming stressed about something.
The centring technique is a breathing technique designed to produce physical balance and mental focus. Centring involves a deep breath (from the stomach not the chest), an awareness of muscle tension, and a strong exhalation to relax the muscles. The use of self-talk ensures attentional control or mental focus.
Step 1: Whilst at your desk plant your feet flat on the floor.
Step 2: Sit up in a straight position with your shoulders back.
Step 3: Expel the air from your lungs until you are unable to breathe out anymore, empty your lungs in preparation for your first deep breath.
Step 4: Place your hand on your stomach.
Step 5: Take a deep breath through your mouth, breathe into your stomach filling your stomach with air.
Step 6: Focus on the physiological sensations of breathing, feel your head getting lighter, and pay attention to your body filling with oxygen.
Step 7: Forcefully and fully expel the air from your stomach through your mouth.
Step 8: As you breathe out focus your attention on how you would like to feel, for example you may say “focused and energised” or “confident and relaxed”.
Step 9: Keep focusing on your physiological response, feel your perspective coming back into your life and your stress being released as well as your relaxation increasing.
Step 10: Repeat this process two more times and really pay attention to the physiological changes that are taking place within your body.
Step 11: Bring your focus to the task.
As you get more used to carrying out this technique during the day, it should become almost automatic, so that whenever you face a stressful situation you will remember to take in your deep breath and pay attention to your body, immediately relaxing and then focus your energy on the task you are about to undertake.
3. Lunch-time:
Keep your brain engaged with some brain plasticity exercises.
Brain plasticity means keeping your brain active and off ‘autopilot’ so that you can deal with the afternoon’s tasks more effectively. You can still relax at lunch, but don’t switch off altogether! Choose one of these options each day or make up your own:
Exericse 1: Walk a different way to get your lunch or try a new food or eating place.
Exercise 2: Talk to a co-worker or colleague that you have never spoken to before or ask someone a question that is out of the ordinary!
Exercise 3: Explore a shop that you’ve never been into before and talk to the shop assistant there.
4. During the afternoon:
Take 5 minutes to relax with the progressive muscle relaxation technique.Take a long, slow deep breath through your nose, inhaling as much air as you can. Then exhale slowly and completely, feeling the tension leaving your body as you exhale. Take another deep breath and let the day’s tensions and problems drain out of you with the exhalation.
Relax as much as possible, remember not to strain to relax. Just let it happen. During the relaxation try not to move the muscles that have already been relaxed.
Work your way through the main muscle groups in your body, from head to toe as follows:
There are 12 muscle groups that you will relax. You will first tense the muscle group for approximately 5-7 seconds and then relax for 8-10 seconds.
Begin with tensing the muscles in the dominant hand and lower arm by making a tight fist and bending your hand back at the wrist. Feel the tension in the hand and up into the lower arm… relax by simply letting go of the tension. Notice the difference between tension and relaxation. Repeat the process and just let the relaxation happen by stopping the contraction; don’t exert any effort.
Next tense the muscles of the dominant upper arm by pushing your elbow down against the chair or desk. Now tense. Feel the tension in the biceps without involving the muscles in the lower arm and hand… release the tension all at once, not gradually. Just let it happen. Let it all go. Repeat the tension and relax. Contrast the difference between tension and letting it go into relaxation. Relaxation is no more than the absence of tension.
Repeat the above process for your nondominant hand.
Then repeat the process above for your nondominant upper arm.
Turn your attention to the muscles in your face. Tense the muscles in forehead by raising your eyebrows, feel the tension in your forehead and scalp (3-5 seconds), now relax and smooth it out, enjoy the spreading sensation of relaxation, now repeat the tensing and then let it go as your forehead should feel smooth as glass.
Now squint your eyes very tightly and at the same time pucker your lips, clinch your teeth, and your jaw, but not so tightly it hurts. Tense them and feel the tension (5-7 seconds) and relax… let the tension dissolve away… now tense again … and let all the tension go… notice how relaxed your jaw feels and release those muscles, your lips may part slightly as your cheeks and jaw relax.
Now tense the muscles of your neck and shoulders by raising your shoulders upward as high as you can while pulling your neck down into your shoulders. Tense (5-7 seconds) feel the discomfort and then relax. Drop your shoulders back down and feel the relaxation spreading through your neck, throat and shoulders… let go more and more… tense again now by raising your shoulders and sinking your neck… and relax. Let go more and more. Enjoy the deepening sensation of relaxation … remember relaxation is simply the absence of tension.
Next tighten your abdomen as though you are expecting a punch and simultaneously tighten your buttocks together. And tense. You should feel a good deal of tightness and tension in your buttocks and stomach…release the tension and let it all drain out. Just let it happen, now tense again… and relax. Feel the spreading sensation of relaxation. Let go more and more….
Remember don’t move the areas or the muscles that have already been tensed and relaxed.
Turn your attention to your right leg. Tighten the muscles in your right thigh by simultaneously contracting all the muscles of your right thigh. Tense now. Try to localise the tension only to your thigh … Note the sensation. And relax. Contrast the tension and relaxation sensations. Remember relaxation is merely the absence of tension; it takes no effort to except merely releasing the tension… now tighten the right thigh again…. and release the tensions, just let it passively drain out. Enjoy the feeling of relaxation…
Next flex your ankle as though you are trying to touch your toes to your shin. Tense now. You should be feeling tension all through your calf, ankle and foot. Contrast this tension with when you tensed your thigh. And relax. Simply release the tension; let go of any remaining tension… now tense again… and slowly release all tension.
Repeat the above process for your left thigh.
Then repeat the above process for your left ankle, calf and foot.
Next straighten your legs and point your toes downward. Tense now. Note the discomfort and relax. Feel the spreading sensation of relaxation as you relax deeper and deeper… now straighten your legs again then relax. Release all tension, let go more and more…
Be mindful of the results and pay attention to how your body feels as it physically and noticeably relaxes and releases the tension.
The physical relaxation you feel after this exercise should also impact positively on your mental state.
5. Before you stop work:
Whatever you do during the day, leave your ‘workplace’ tidy and carry out some simple time management tasks.
Task 1: Write a ‘to do’ list for the next day. Prioritise all the items using an ABC method. Mark the highest value items on your list as A, the medium value items as B and the lower value items as C. Don’t set more than 3 items as A. You can then break down this list further using A-1, A-2, B-1, B-2, B-3 … etc. Make sure that the list is flexible.
Task 2: Tidy your desk or workspace, removing the clutter and putting things in their place so that you can start your next day in a good environment.
6. Leaving the office:
If you work in an office and feel that a lot of your stress comes during the day, repeat the centring process (described earlier) as you leave the office. As you physically leave the building, try to also mentally leave office business behind. It is now your time. Go and make the most of the time you now have away from the office.
7. Before going to bed:
Complete a gratitude journal. This might sound like just extra paperwork, but it can really help you to reflect on the positives in your life.
Write down 3 positive events that have occurred over the past 3 days. Then, beside these, note what you think the causes of these good events are. This exercise should help you to stop dwelling on the stress and problems you may be experiencing.
Start incorporating these techniques into your day; just one at a time if it’s easier, and you’ll soon find that a few small changes to your daily routine can really help to reduce your stress levels. All it takes is for you to put aside a few minutes a day to look after yourself more effectively, and you should find that this time is an investment worth making as it will often result in you being more effective when you are working hard. If some techniques suit you more than others, that’s fine.. just use more of what you like and less of what you don’t!